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How to know when something really great is coming and not to be denied your blessings.

1/11/2025

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It can be wild how it works sometimes.
It's a feeling. The thing that you've poured all of yourself into manifesting, you can feel it coming. It is almost here, not quite, but as always with the Universe.... there will be tests!

First, for those who know, doesn't the environment become more hostile every time? Everything feels like more of a challenge. Murphy and his law is out full force. And at some point the questioning of WHAT IS HAPPENING?!! But you get through each challenge and keep it pushing making decisions about what exactly you want in life. Training that energetic algorithm to bring you what you desire.

Then the fakes show up. The fakes are there as a question from the Universe
"Are you sure? Are you SURE that you're sure?" Will you put up with more abuse, with someone who is kinda what you want but not really just so that you don't have to be alone. All of those fun types of tests. You go through them all.

Also, the Final Exam of whatever your previous lessons were. Did you really learn the lessons you were meant to learn before? Are you ready for this blessing? Will you be able to hold on to your blessing if it is given to you? If not, more lessons will be provided for you until you learn.

Then there is the dragon of fear. All of your worse fears will come up for you to deal with yet again. During these times it can be difficult to appreciate it, because these times are often incredibly challenging. However, with the distance of time it becomes more apparent that overcoming these fears make for a person who is focused, strong, clear, and able to take on the next level of work.

Much like a knight on a hero's quest we go through this process. Not always in the same order, yet they occur. And then, after facing

the shadow of programing that no longer serves us, facing down the fakes and setting boundaries, choosing healthy choices, and then staring down the dragon of fear.... it comes!

Whatever "it" is, is up to you.

Whether it is an opportunity, or a relationship, or anything that was being manifested. Everything good comes on the other side of the fire.

Are you willing to do the work?
Are you able to endure the pain of the work?
It will test you in everyway, and the old version of you will have to die. It feels like death.

Once it is done and you finally get that thing that you always wanted to happen. It always feels like the work was worth it.

Good luck on your journey! Godspeed on your valiant quest!

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What is your relationship with risk?

1/10/2025

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Understanding your relationship with risk is crucial to success.

Not enough of it, and we remain stagnant. Too much of it, and we're dead.

So how do we navigate the spaces in between?

As we discussed earlier this week there will be times when you will have to call it. When things aren't working because the resistance is too much, and it is time to retreat.

The retreat can be temporary, to take time to adapt. Fill in gaps of knowledge with education, speak to colleagues, work out a new plan and then try again.

Other times there will be obvious clues that we're being redirected to a new path. Each person has their own way of knowing. Sometimes we try everything we know how to do and we fail.

It happens, we fail, we lose, we grieve, we assess and we move on to a new path.

We have to have a love affair with calculated risk, the unknown, and the unsteady time when the momentum hasn't kicked in yet. It's important to keep moving in the dark with Faith. Then one wonderful day you will have built up enough of your desired outcome, until the work starts to pay off, and the experience we've gained starts to kick in. The snowball of success begins to gain momentum.

Everyone is capable of their own form of greatness. With patience a particular brand of greatness unfolds and makes itself known. We can do wonderful things with time, focus, attention, patience, and flexibility to make the proper adaptations to our process until we unlock the key to what works.

This requires risk. To learn, to fall down and get up again. The people who allow this process to unfold in their lives eventually win, and the ones that stay down, don't get to feel the charge of making it, and living life on their own terms.

We have to put in our time to be the person that we can trust in and as we trust ourselves knowing that whatever risk occurs or challenge presents itself we can handle it. As this level of confidence builds others will respond favorably.

Many want the results without the risk and without the work. There are no shortcuts or quick fixes for most things. I found that avoiding the baked in risk in activities make things worse not better. For example, in day trading, trading with the frame of mind that "I am scared to lose." Will cause errors that will cost more money than trading to gain, or just trading well making good strategy decisions from a plan and then executing that plan. It translates to other aspects of life as well. When we fear speaking to our crush, or leaving a conflict with a spouse too long to try to avoid a tough conversation. Avoiding pain tends to create more of it.

"He who does not risk, never gets to drink champagne," --Russian Proverb

The risk of time:

Are you able to give years of your life to develop a skill, audience, following, a market for your product?

This is the risk that many are unwilling to make going for sometimes up to a decade when you think of artists trying to break into an industry and the "20 year overnight success".

We hear "trust the process" a lot. Enough to want to puke. Yet the risk of time is what it takes to be great at anything.

Practice, repetition, adaptation, revision, precision.

The risk of paying up front:

"You've got to pay to play" is a common phrase.

Do you buy the best equipment you can afford, buy training and certifications, acquire proper licensing? You need to if you are going to get anywhere.

Of course, each endeavor is slightly different but the risk is the same. You may dump all of your money into this thing and what if it doesn't pay out? Now what?

We can't think about that. Only about what if it does? What if it is amazing and works out even BETTER than we had planned!!!! That has to be the mindset to be successful even if the external environment gives us no indication things will be ok. You have to see how far you can go, until you look up and see that you made it!

The payments will come in, but not until you fashion yourself into the person with the skills and capabilities that people will pay for (see risk of time above).

The risk of trying something new:

Can you allow yourself the time to suck? The experience of sucking at something takes courage, you must be pertinacious. To allow yourself to be absolutely HORRIBLE at the thing you want to do most in the world? It's not for the weak of heart.

Can you go through the time when people laugh at you, call you crazy, tell you that it's not going to happen for you? That say they have no idea what you are doing or why you are doing it and that you should probably quit?

Are you able to show up every day and get kicked in the teeth and come back tomorrow for some more? In whatever form that comes to you. We have to suck until we get it. Whatever "it" is for you.

When people are young it may not be as bad because no one expects you to know anything. Yet, as you get older and get high ideals about yourself and "who you are" it can get a bit tougher.

One of my life mentors used to tell me "Nobodies can do anything". And that stuck with me. I try to remain a "nobody" in my mind. Allowing myself that fluidity and grace to discover something new. That ability to continue to try new things despite the frustrations and struggles that is the process of learning.

As people get older they get embedded and complacent. Less likely to start over and take risks.

The risk of uncertainty:

Going into the pitch black dark of uncertainty is something that many aren't willing to do. They want all accountability, responsibility, and the job of making things happen to be someone else's job.

Note, when it comes time to share the good stuff-- there they are. The story The Little Red Hen comes to mind. They want the uncertainty and the work to be someone else's, but the rewards to be shared.

It doesn't work that way. I have spent so many of my younger years looking for a shortcut and there isn't one.

You just have to connect to the project, immerse yourself in it and get your reps in.

I think of it like the "fog of war" they have in video games as you make progress you begin to see the next step. The only way to get through uncertainty is to "do the thing" and you get through it. It is the last thing people will want to hear. Yet, that's the answer.

"Nothing to it but to do it". It's simple. Doing it will probably take all of you and more. But in the end looking back you get to experience some really amazing stuff that no one else will get to.

It's true it may not work out. However, like Martin Luther King, Jr. said,

“If you can't fly, then run. If you can't run, then walk. If you can't walk, then crawl, but whatever you do, you have to keep moving”

This is the path through the risk of uncertainty.

As you journal I invite you to write down the word risk and all of the thoughts that come up when you think of risk. All of the fears, then all of the possibilities when you face them, and what you will have on the other side of facing your feelings about risk. Maybe wright down what you were taught about risk as a child. Were you encouraged to take risks? When you reckon with your feelings about risk, you are well on your way on your path to success.

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Thank you President Carter

1/9/2025

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Today was President Jimmy Carter's funeral. He died on December 29, 2024 after being in hospice care for 2 years at the age of 100. Although no one is perfect, Jimmy Carter was pretty close. Many talk about the life of Christ, but President Carter took it upon himself to live it. To wage peace wherever he went. President Carter continues to have a deep impact on how I shape my life, and how I want to live it. His departure from the earth plane leaves a large gap. One that I suspect will take many people to fill. Will you be one of them? I will do my best to play my part to live as President Carter has taught us: with grace, compassion, and principled discipline.

Jimmy Carter and his wife Rosalynn demonstrated what it was to be in a committed and equal partnership at a time when there weren't many public examples on display. No matter how busy he was he always took time out to teach Sunday School because he was dedicated to living his spirituality. He cared about the youth of the nation as well. He taught us as children of the 1970's and 1980's to be global citizens. To take good care of the world and to take good care of ourselves and the people we loved. Jimmy Carter, a peanut farmer from the segregated south turned international diplomat and US President winning a Nobel Peace Prize for his work in the Middle East showed us what it was to live as an inclusive world citizen. To wield a soft but strong power of respect and dignity for all.

A true yin-yang type of personality; he utilized both Soft and Hard diplomatic policy. A Nuclear Physicist who strengthened the military while deploying the persuasive powers of a Southern gentleman to never have to use it. These are just a few ways he was a guiding light for many and will continue to be for those who choose to keep his principles at the forefront of their hearts and minds.

I admire President Carter's inclusivity. Something I fall short of, but aspire to achieve. A measuring stick I pull out to see how I'm doing. Each day I hope to do better. Jimmy Carter the president who placed solar panels on the White House and told us to learn the metric system to be in alignment with the rest of the world. He will always live within me, and I will continue to pass his way of living down to my children the best that I can. He was a real one, living his ideals not just preaching and pandering. That is what separates him from any other who calls themself a leader. He sacrificed for the greater good. I am not sure people will appreciate enough. But that is what makes you a great leader! That's who I wish to be as well.

Many are jealous that they will never get the level of love and respect that someone truly living the spiritual path will receive for their lifetime of work. It is something earned, you cannot purchase it, coerce it, demand it. It comes from offering love, relief, and bringing peace. "Installing smiles for miles." is something that came to mind when thinking about what to write today. He built homes through Habitat for Humanity and lived in a modest one himself.

Thank you President Carter, you will be greatly missed.

To find out more about President Jimmy Carter you can learn about him through
The Carter Center

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If it's not your day, it's not your day. Surrender, don't force it.

1/8/2025

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Before I get completely into today's discussion I have some acknowledgments to share. Thank you to those who have taken the time to leave me uplifting comments. I appreciate it and I am glad you find value here. It means a lot to me. Also, I want to give a shout out to my "Divine Team", without my spiritual journey and support I wouldn't still be here to share these stories with you and I certainly wouldn't have had some amazing experiences that have afforded me this opportunity so Thanks Universe, I appreciate you. Ok, let's get to work!

Today offered me a complete demonstration of the topic we will discuss today. The essence of it is learning how to surrender, take the "L" and try again on a more favorable day. This is a lesson that was driven home to me by day trading, however it can be applied universally.

I remember in driving school they said if you know that an accident is inevitable try to let go and loosen up your body and surrender, let the impact move through you because if you clench and tighten up you just get hurt worse. The same with day trading we are taught to keep the losses as small as possible if it is going against you the sooner you surrender to that reality the less it hurts.

Sometimes people will be tempted to "revenge trade" to keep going even though things are going wrong. Because we have an innate desire to want to fix things. To not have to turn in a bad paper at school or to hide our mistakes from people who matter to us.

There is this feeling that you keep going until you get the result you want, when that can be the worst thing to do.

"A bad day is a bad day.
Leave it alone and walk away."
--Sophia

It happens. We've all had a day where nothing seems to go smoothly, maybe it's just a complete @#$%show disaster.

What do you do in these situations?

It's not that you don't want to show up and try or give up. Of course you have to show up and try to see what kind of day it is. Not some predetermined declaration that "today is gonna suck" but by coming in clean with the best of plans and watch it play out. In the playing out of the predetermined plan we may note that when theory meets reality things can go awry in a big way. At this point it is time to take a step back take a big deep breath or three and recognize it's not going to happen for me today. That doesn't mean that it's not going to ever happen. But the conditions are not in alignment with your desires today.

"If you find yourself in a hole, stop digging."
-- Denis Healy

Today was a perfect example of that for me. Last night, ALL night, there was a wind storm that howled and kept me up until the morning. So, when I sat down to write, it just wasn't there. My mind couldn't concentrate because I was exhausted. I walked away did some more mindless things like dishes, laundry, grocery shopping. I had something to eat and took a little rest and then got back to it. Things were in better alignment and I was able to crank it out. It was later in the day than I would have liked, but it happened.

In trading, having a day that is not in alignment with your trading style can wipe out weeks or sometimes months of work. Trying to force something that isn't there is damaging to a trading account.

In interpersonal relationships, trying to force closeness in an environment without trust or interest doesn't work. If anything it takes you farther away from the possibility of building a respectful and emotionally safe space for intimate relating.

If all of the ingredients aren't there at the right time, the cake isn't gonna bake right. There is nothing willpower can do.

I made the image shown above to remind me that when I try to force things I get bit. It's no fun. You don't pressure a rattlesnake. It will correct you quickly. So if it isn't working today, it's ok. Minimize damage and walk away. Come back with new energy and a fresh outlook. Eventually the environment will be in your favor and you will be able to make progress on your journey again.

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Becoming comfortable with the emotional risk of content creation.

1/7/2025

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Emotional risk can be a significant barrier to content creation. The risk of rejection and being "cancelled" is more than some creators are willing to pay to express their thoughts, in whatever creative medium, to the public.

What if they don't like it? What if they don't care? What if no one shows up? This is a risk taken whenever a creative puts their particular medium out for display.

First, if anyone does comment on a creation good or bad, it's more of a reflection of where the audience members are than it is about anything else. When you put something up for consideration it's like showing someone a mirror. They may not like the things the mirror reflects to them and that is ok.

They may hate everything about your work yet, for me I'd rather they bought a million of my books to burn than to not buy my book at all. The process of sending your thoughts out into the ether like a message in a bottle is worth doing. Sometimes you get someone to look at it. Sometimes you learn something about yourself in the process. Either way the thoughts are outside of you and thus are able to spread some inspiration or chaos depending on what the subject matter is. Either is worth doing.

It's important that we release our creations into the world and let serendipity do it's work. Some of the most iconic works of creativity were hated by their creators. They thought people are going to hate this! or This isn't going anywhere. But they were wrong, and you might be too if you don't take the leap to put your content out there because of fear or self-restriction. Walk the emotional tightrope, give it a try. It's not so bad. It could be really, really good. -- Sophia

I am finding it a little difficult to get this blog out today. Many times the words just flow for me, but not today. Today it is a struggle and I don't say that for pity. I say that as a "do it anyway". It's not always going to flow, you may put some real garbage out there and you know what? That might be someone's favorite post. The post that really touches them and that they feel is the most relatable. Some one 5, 50, or 500 years from now may find evidence of it somewhere and it may be just what they needed to be inspired and to find their purpose in life. You never know.

Putting your content out in the world gives serendipity some material to work with. Isn't that fun? I think so.

So if emotional risk is the thing holding you back... I can't tell you all how to live your lives... but words aren't fatal. And ideas are valuable. Consider being the one to create for you, for them. for us. I think it's important.

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Believe in your dream more than your nightmares: Focus directs flow

1/1/2025

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This post is a bit longer but I felt it was needed. It's January 1, 2025 as I write this so people all over the world are waking up with intentions about how this year is going to be better than before. For many, the last few years have been a bit of a nightmare, so much so that this year, regardless of external circumstances, has people DETERMINED to make 2025 a great year somehow. They are tired of focusing on the nightmare, it's time to focus on the dream.

While scrolling on Instagram the other day I saw a reel with someone talking about believing in your dreams. This brought up a few important things for me. Some people are so overwhelmed by survival, so beat into a sense of learned helplessness from being told "No" by those around them, by society, by themselves at some point that the question becomes "What's a dream?"

People tend to believe in their nightmares because they look around them and that is the evidence their environment feeds them so that is what they see. When they believe in nightmares, obsess on them, become fully embodied in the belief of them and then guess what? They find evidence of that reality in everything they see. Trapped in the hopeless helpless cycle of "It never works out for me. No matter how hard I try." A thought spiral ensues and the cycle continues.

It became clear to me after reading that post that it was far easier to believe in the nightmare than the dream.

I realized I needed a shift in mindset because I know that focus directs flow. What you think about creates a channel that your energy projects itself into. This energy path directs the outcomes of life. In order to shift my mindset I said to myself "Just see how far you can get today." regarding living my dream day and not my nightmare. How far can I get? And you know what? Since making that shift I've gotten pretty far. I've found out the things that I will need to get farther in the future. But I am on the journey, and I believe that I can get there.

That one small shift in thinking feels like a HUGE expansive change!

Many times when believing in the nightmare people tell themselves NO before anyone else does. If we are calibrating our future trajectory from previous data, we will bring the nightmare with us into the future. What we focus our attention on becomes fact over time. What we believe we manifest.

Thinking about a dream is a great start.
Now connect with the dream plug into it with your full mind, body, and soul. Really believe the preferred experience is going to happen. This is the key to success.
Do not allow yourself to entertain any thoughts to the contrary of your preferred outcome occurring. Like water moving downstream find the flow path. Whether that's over, under, or dripping through a boulder for years until it splits in two. Water always finds a way to flow. You too can always find a way to make your dream come true.

It isn't just the thinking about it though. You can think "Oh yes I wish for this dream to come true." Yet, when you believe it you emotionally connect to it. Your spirit, your mind and your body all align to it. You have to be all in. Especially in the beginning when the project needs momentum. There is no room for anything but absolute obsession, passion, and focus. This is when the miracles happen.

As the day goes by and the mantra is let's see how far I can get it becomes more manageable to live the dream. Here are some questions I ask myself but you can create some that work better for your particular situation:

How far can I get towards...

making a tasty nutritious breakfast to give my body what it needs to have stamina for a productive day?

moving in a way that is fun to me to keep my hormones, my body, my mind feeling uplifted and feeling pretty good?

sitting for an hour to create and post quality content that my community will enjoy?

connecting with people I love to maintain our relationships and enrich each other with the enjoyment of our interaction with one another?

taking care of myself so that I am able to give my best to myself and those around me?

You may want to journal about these questions over the next month or so. In the morning write about your intentions for the day and at the end of the day write about your results, what actually happened that day and if you were happy with those results or what you would do differently in the future.

By focusing your attention on the dream your energy will flow in that direction, you'll see more opportunities and the Universe tends to get on board to offer you the opportunities to make your dreams come true because you are present and are being the person that that dream can embody.

It's a powerful practice I'd love to hear from you about how it works out for you. Live your dreams in 2025 and beyond!
Enjoy your day.

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How to know when something really great is coming and not to be denied your blessings.

What is your relationship with risk?

Thank you President Carter

If it's not your day, it's not your day. Surrender, don't force it.

Becoming comfortable with the emotional risk of content creation.

Believe in your dream more than your nightmares: Focus directs flow

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