Becoming who you want to be

One of the things that can be greatly underestimated is the length of the process of becoming who you wish to be. And that progress is not a 45 ° angle. It's a wave, a swirl, the trajectory is all over the place. And as an all over the place swirl we won't make progress everyday, and that is ok. Today we will discuss what to do on the no progress days. 

I often say, "you will get a lesson, the preferred result, or the opportunity to become one step closer to the person that is capable of achieving the preferred result." Let's dive deeper into the third option of that sentence. Shall we? 

The lesson will come when something didn't go as planned. We can review it and see if there was anything we could have done differently. Preferred result, we can review and see what we liked about what we did, why it worked and how we can do it again. After playing back what happened and documenting it we can find the gaps between what we would have liked to have happen and what happened. How can we look at the points of friction and replace it with flow state process?

What do you need to become the person who can get the results that you want? 

What does the person who does what you want to do successfully have?

How might the person who is successful at what you want to do behave in this situation?

What might you need to change about yourself to become more like them?  

Some other useful questions you may ask yourself are: 

Do I need to upskill? 

Do I need to look at our timing? 

Do I need to surrender a part of the process to something or someone else, remove the ego from the outcome? 

Do I need to enlist an expert? 

These are just a few of the questions that can be asked. On days when it feels like no progress can be made we can always strengthen these areas so that when the opportunity comes again to attempt our goal we can face it with more of the tools, techniques, and resources needed to do better. Maybe next time we may fail better and have a meaningful lesson, or as we all hope, achieve the preferred result. 

Think of some goals that you are currently working toward. How can you fill the gap between where you are now and what skills, processes, resources or tools you could add to your toolkit to bring you closer to being the person who is able to achieve the preferred results? 

Feel free to share in the comment section your experience with closing the gap to success. 

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