If it's not your day, it's not your day. Surrender, don't force it.

Before I get completely into today's discussion I have some acknowledgments to share. Thank you to those who have taken the time to leave me uplifting comments. I appreciate it and I am glad you find value here. It means a lot to me. Also, I want to give a shout out to my "Divine Team", without my spiritual journey and support I wouldn't still be here to share these stories with you and I certainly wouldn't have had some amazing experiences that have afforded me this opportunity so Thanks Universe, I appreciate you. Ok, let's get to work! 

Today offered me a complete demonstration of the topic we will discuss today. The essence of it is learning how to surrender, take the "L" and try again on a more favorable day. This is a lesson that was driven home to me by day trading, however it can be applied universally. 

I remember in driving school they said if you know that an accident is inevitable try to let go and loosen up your body and surrender, let the impact move through you because if you clench and tighten up you just get hurt worse. The same with day trading we are taught to keep the losses as small as possible if it is going against you the sooner you surrender to that reality the less it hurts. 

​Sometimes people will be tempted to "revenge trade" to keep going even though things are going wrong. Because we have an innate desire to want to fix things. To not have to turn in a bad paper at school or to hide our mistakes from people who matter to us.

There is this feeling that you keep going until you get the result you want, when that can be the worst thing to do. 

​​"A bad day is a bad day.
Leave it alone and walk away."
                                           --Sophia

It happens. We've all had a day where nothing seems to go smoothly, maybe it's just a complete @#$%show disaster.

What do you do in these situations?

It's not that you don't want to show up and try or give up. Of course you have to show up and try to see what kind of day it is. Not some predetermined declaration that "today is gonna suck" but by coming in clean with the best of plans and watch it play out. In the playing out of the predetermined plan we may note that when theory meets reality things can go awry in a big way. At this point it is time to take a step back take a big deep breath or three and recognize it's not going to happen for me today. That doesn't mean that it's not going to ever happen. But the conditions are not in alignment with your desires today. ​

"If you find yourself in a hole, stop digging."
                                                    -- Denis Healy

Today was a perfect example of that for me. Last night, ALL night, there was a wind storm that howled and kept me up until the morning. So, when I sat down to write, it just wasn't there. My mind couldn't concentrate because I was exhausted. I walked away did some more mindless things like dishes, laundry, grocery shopping. I had something to eat and took a little rest and then got back to it. Things were in better alignment and I was able to crank it out. It was later in the day than I would have liked, but it happened. 

In trading, having a day that is not in alignment with your trading style can wipe out weeks or sometimes months of work. Trying to force something that isn't there is damaging to a trading account. 

In interpersonal relationships, trying to force closeness in an environment without trust or interest doesn't work. If anything it takes you farther away from the possibility of building a respectful and emotionally safe space for intimate relating.

If all of the ingredients aren't there at the right time, the cake isn't gonna bake right. There is nothing willpower can do.

I made the image shown above to remind me that when I try to force things I get bit. It's no fun. You don't pressure a rattlesnake. It will correct you quickly. So if it isn't working today, it's ok. Minimize damage and walk away. Come back with new energy and a fresh outlook. Eventually the environment will be in your favor and you will be able to make progress on your journey again. 

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